The Bootylicious Diva Muse

O. 6 August 2008 A Recent Post, Art, Ask the Diva Muse | Comments

Dear Diva,
I forgot to mention that when we started, we were both seeing other people. He told me that he had broken off with his girlfriend early this year. I, however, am still with the same person that I was seeing when the two of us started our affair. I am not sure if I can truly trust this guy. After all, if a guy can cheat with me, what’s to stop him from cheating on me in future right? At this point in time, I truly believe he has not been unfaithful to me. I must maintain that I am still quite besotted with him despite everything and I think he can’t let me go either. I suppose here’s where I apply the rules of the playette. I refer to what you said: “Its almost never too late to apply the rules of dealing with a player if you choose to go that route. If you have not been too clingy or have not brought a whole lot of drama to the situation, you can still pull back and go into that playette role, but you have to be prepared for what comes with that.” What did you mean ? Diva, Is it true that a man would not look elsewhere if the sex is so good with a particular woman that he can’t get enough of it?

Angel

Dear Angel
It sounds to me like you are already a bit of a playerina, but before we get into to that, let me begin by saying, that great sex has never been, will never be, no way, no how enough to keep a man from straying.

Men typically think that if they are having great sex with you, chances are they can have even greater sex with someone else.

In addition, men typically react to new booty (pardon the directness) the way a woman reacts to a new pair of shoes. When we first get that new pair shoes, they are the best thing since the last new pair. We wear them, show them off for a while, and we absolutely love them. And then they end up on the floor by the bed on hiatus while we look for a new pair. Eventually they get relegated to the back of the closet when we find that newer, more perfect, shinier pair. Sometimes we pull them out and wear them for old times sake, but pretty much, once the new pair comes along, the old ones get totally neglected. If they are a special or very expensive pair sometimes they get trophy status so we use them to show off to our friends, to say look what I got.

When we last spoke, I asked you to find out if he is actually a player. It sounds to me, based on your response that you don’t suspect him of cheating on you, but because of the way that the two of you got together, you are afraid that he may in the future. Understand that if he is a man, it is should be assumed that at some point he may cheat. It would be wonderful if he didn’t, but the odds are that he might so you need to prepare yourself, not obsess over it, but prepare for the fact that it may happen and decide for yourself how you will deal with that. Then I suggest that you need to go on with the relationship and actually enjoy it and stop stressing over it.

The Playette or Playerina rules can always apply in some way to any relationship. It is my personal belief that every woman should always reserve a little bit of a player attitude to protect herself. The basic premise of being a Playerina is thinking like a man but smarter.

I will be posting a guide very soon that outlines the details on exactly what it means to be a female and a player. But in the meantime, when you find yourself in a dilemma, think, what would a man a do? And be honest with yourself about that answer and then proceed with caution.

The Diva Muse

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